10 Things That Will Improve The Lust In Your Bedroom (And Your Performance Too!)

The definition of relationships and marriage have been transformed in the twenty first century. It is also a true and known fact that people often tend to get too stressed with their jobs and career pressure and hence their sexual life begins to take a hit. Under such circumstances, people often forget to notice what is wrong, and it is often too late by the time they have realized what exactly the problem is. Needless to say this takes a toll on the physical and mental well being of the people. But is it something that can be avoided? Yes, for sure, and we are here to help.

Today we bring you ten ways how you can spice up the sexy in your bedroom, so that you can get pulled out of the stress and focus on doing what is important.

1. Cleanliness

Clean room sex

Order is the first law of heaven, and hence your bedroom should have some of it too. You should always try to keep your bedroom clean and organized. The sight of a bedroom in disarray is an instant mood killer for almost all of us. The first instinct in an disorganized bedroom is to clean it rather than have sex in it. You should always try to keep it neat, and organized. If you need some help, you and your partner can discuss what stuff is essential for your bedroom and what needs to move out.

2. Perfumes

J. Sibiga Photography
Flickr/ J. Sibiga Photography

A good perfume can be a real stimulant for sexual urges. You should use some nice fragrance which is appealing to both of you. Studies have shown that sometimes the same fragrance can be appealing to one partner and displeasing for the other. Hence you should be very choosy in picking up a fragrance for the bedroom. You can change the fragrance weekly or every couple of weeks. Such things can make you look forward towards reaching your bedroom and being welcomed by a new aroma. Such fragrances are also known to refresh your mood and make you feel rejuvenated. We bet you never knew perfumes could make so many things happen.

3. Aromatic Candles

Candles aromatic
Flickr/ Paul Bratcher

Aromatic candles are also known to light up things in the bedroom. You can switch off all lights before your intense love making session and light up a few aromatic candles. The slow building of aroma would enrich your love making session and form an association in your minds. Such associations can naturally turn you on the next time you encounter the same fragrance. So much so for looking forward towards your bedroom.

4. The Kamasutra

Flickr/ Roberta Cortese

When sex gets boring, what is the one thing you can do ? Experiment. Most people haven’t gotten beyond the traditional few sex poses. Most couples do not know what is beyond Missionary, Doggy Style and Cowgirl positions. Well, turns out there is a lot beyond these positions. And sex is much much more beyond these things. You should use the Kamasutra to find things that you never knew existed, and find out about what things you like and what you dislike. A fair warning though, a lot of positions and things are not for everyone, hence you should apply your common sense before diving in. If you are unsure of something, there are always escorts to help.

5. Music

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Good music is also known to increase your libido. Is there a song you both like, that makes you feel like doing it ? Why don’t you play it. Got a favourite playlist of your favourite songs, why don’t you put it on while love making. If you want to drop a hint to your partner that you are in the mood for some action, why don’t you put on the same song you had a rough and raunchy love making session a couple of weeks or months ago? Music has been shown to get your partners to do things you are sometimes too shy to ask him to. Nothing keeps the mood alive than a good playlist or a good song.

6. Bubble Baths

Flickr/ Alexandra Stewart

What can get off a tiring day off of your head- A Bubble Bath. Spending some time in the bath tub with your partner can really be rejuvenating for both of you. When you get to be with the person you love, and have some no holds barred conversations with him, sharing each other’s inhibited thoughts with each other, the trust between you increases and the bond between you deepens.

7. Lingerie

Sexy lady in bikini
Flickr/ Juan Davila

If there is one thing that can capture a man’s attention really quickly, it is a women’s lingerie. Almost all men have a fetish when it comes to lingerie. If you don’t know what your partner’s likes are, just casually strike a conversation about lingerie and see what his response is. Then keeping in view his response, it is time to go lingerie shopping. Lingerie is something you have a lot of choices in, and you can use this to surprise him for a really long time.

8. Flowers

Rose petles

Just when you thought you had ran out of ideas on what to do with your bedroom, we found you another one. Flowers. Use fresh flowers for decoration. Nothing yells out sex more than a bed decorated with rose petals. So the next time you are at the florist, see what you can use in your bedroom.

9. Lighting

sexy lighting
Flickr/ Mike Monaghan

Lighting is another aspect that you should not ignore in your bedroom. Install some really sexy, romantic lights in your bedroom that can scream out to your partner what you are wanting him to do all this while. Choose a great pair of lights that can really set the mood in your bedroom. Something which is soft on the eyes is always recommended. Once again, communication with your partner can be a key.

10. Keep Your Phones and Ipads and Laptops Out Too


There is nothing more mood killing than a partner who is on a call when you want to get down with the stuff. You need to be very alert of the fact that your love making time should be yours only. All unnecessary gadgets should be out of your way. No laptops, phones or ipads should ever find your way between your love making time meant exclusively for your partner.

One hidden aspect of all these activities is that it gets partners to talk about their preferences, likes and dislikes etc. Such conversations often reignite the spark that many relationships lose after a while and make them more connected. Such discussions also make people deal with any trust issues they might have been having with their partner, and makes them open up to each other. It is also helpful for new couples who have just begun exploring their partner’s interests and fetishes.

We have always wished healthy sex lives for our reader, and we will keep bringing similar articles in the future. Stay tuned.